Today marks the 40th anniversary of Roe v. Wade, the Supreme Court ruling that declared that a women’s right to privacy extends to her decision to have an abortion. Since then, it is estimated that over 55 million abortions have been performed in the U.S. alone.

Perhaps your child is among the 55 million.

It could be that your child would be two years or thirty-two years old now, had you not chosen to have an abortion. And even after all this time, there are still days when you wonder what would have become of him or her.

Today is probably one of those days.

On one side, you see pro-choice supporters celebrating and congratulating each other on the advances in women’s liberation. On the other, you see pro-life advocates petitioning the nation on behalf of the unborn, vowing not to stop protesting until abortion is once again illegal.

And you’re torn.

You’re torn because you know what the Bible says. You know now that life begins at conception and that God alone has the right to choose when a person’s life should end. But you also know what it feels like to be in that desperate situation where you feel like your only choice is… the unspeakable.

Let me be the first to admit that Christians don’t always get the abortion issue right. For one, we refer to it as an “issue.” It’s not. It’s a conflict of the soul. For two, we push our agenda any chance we get – in the polls, at church, on bumper stickers, on tee-shirts – but rarely do we push it where it counts, face to face, over coffee, with hurting, confused, or uncertain women.

Sadly, we often wrap the truth in shame, and then wonder why it gets rejected when instead, we should be wrapping the truth in love. Not compromising. Not sugar-coating. Not giving in. But loving.

Loving the unborn. Loving the unwed. Loving the opinionated. Loving the politicians. Loving the scared. Loving the selfish. And even loving the doctors and nurses who are on the other side of this spiritual and moral chasm, over which there seems to be no hope for a bridge.

Make no mistake. I am 100% anti-abortion. But I am also 100% pro YOU. I don’t support your right to choose. But I do support your right to be chosen.